*sigh*

[tahariel]

I'm feeling kinda lonely tonight. I think it's finally sinking in that I'm living in a new town, knowing very few people, all of whom have other friends and stuff to do, and that I want to have plans but don't. I can't expect people to hang out with me all the time, but I really need to make some more friends around here so I can hang out with people and do stuff and get out of the house. If it's like this when I'm currently living in shared accommodation with someone I get on with and sit with chatting sometimes while we watch TV, I'm starting to wonder what it's going to be like to live entirely on my own...

I can't really offer for anyone to stay over here (at least until I move around September-time), not that you'd want to since hospital accommodation is so rubbish, but would anyone like to make plans to hang out on a weekend or something? I can drive and come to you, we can do whatever, I'm not fussy. I just want to have something planned so I feel less like I'm going to become the next victim on CSI who had no friends so they can't ask anyone questions about her life, and end up poking around her home commenting on how sad it must have been.

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[frodo-esque.livejournal.com]

Hi there! I just made the move all the way from Atlanta, GA to Washington DC (well, actually Rockville, MD right next door), it's Day 2, and I can certainly commiserate with feeling lonely. Where do you live?

I am lucky in one sense, I do know of friends of friends who live in the area who have asked that i get in touch once I'm settled, but I feel sad because I'm leaving so much that was familiar back home. Also, it's hard to be in a place that's not organized yet (boxes everywhere), and I'm also far away from someone I was quite close to back in ATL. It was my therapist back home, a male who was my age with with whom I had an exceptional professional and somewhat personal connection with.

Anyway, just wanted to write and share that in a sense you aren't alone in the way you're feeling. I have been brainstorming on ways I can meet people, have you done the same? I was thinking that work will be an obvious avenue, then I'll meet friends through the friends of friends I'll meet, but more proactively-- I plan on researching organizations in the city I can join. Also, there is www.meetup.com which is a great site for meeting like-minded people in your area.

If you're anywhere close to me now, maybe we can even meet up!

[tahariel.livejournal.com]

Sorry, I live in Milton Keynes in the UK, so it would be a bit of a drive! But thank you for being so kind - I'm planning on doing evening classes come September when they start up for the new school year, which hopefully will help. My biggest problem has always been that I have unusual interests that aren't shared by most people my age. I've been considering things like bookclubs, but I suspect they'd mostly be populated by people much older than me.

I'll definitely check out meetup.com, though, if it covers the UK too. Sounds really good :)

[frodo-esque.livejournal.com]

Ah yes, the UK is a bit of a trek from where I am. =) It's too bad we can't get together for a drink but hey, we can always keep in touch via LJ. =) I'll be making posts about my transition here, and I'll certainly look for your updates as well. =)

[loki-dip.livejournal.com]

Not next weekend, but the 15-16th? I'm free. I should be at my parents too... we should do something. Cinema perhaps? (Mum and bro work Saturdays and Dad will be in bed so I can steal the car and drive up).

I totally get it though, I can count on one hand the number of friends I have in Oxford, and I've been here nearly 3 years. Most live elsewhere (even work friends don't live in Oxford.)

Easiest way - 07732 710526. My mobile number. No landline in my accommodation. I'm also free tomorrow, but will be in Headington for that one, and it's a bit short notice for you.

[tahariel.livejournal.com]

That sounds awesome, absolutely :) I'll write it into my diary now. I'll text you now so you have my number too.

[ionaonie.livejournal.com]

You know you can come and see me any weekend.

Just text me.

[tellezara.livejournal.com]

You can be the most social person in the world and still find it difficult moving somewhere to start a job - joining clubs and stuff helps to an extent but it's kinda like, for the most part you just see people there, and the evenings where you're not doing that kind of thing are still lonely. Especially when everybody's older than you and have kids and all the rest of it. Nobody up here would be even remotely interested in half of my hobbies and interests so I just don't talk about it. As time goes on I think you'll find a few kindred spirits around the place but it's difficult to stay occupied in the meantime. When my annual leave renews at Easter I could probably come visit or something :) Hang in there!