Aaaaargh!

[tahariel]

I'm just so frustrated and angry right now I could burst.

So I was on the bus talking to Aimee, who is on my course, and going in for my clinical skills lecture of the day, when she seemed confused about something I was telling her and I clarified a little too sarcastically, I'll admit, and she got pissed off with me. When we got off the bus I caght up to her to apologise, and she told me that every time I've ever spoken to her I've insulted her.

Now, this is not true. At least, I hope it's not true. And I know it's not true when she says 'I don't get easily offended', because more than one person has commented quite the opposite. And yet... and yet...

I thought I was doing so well here at not making people hate me and generally being an arse, because we all know I can be sometimes. I get frustrated when people can't keep up with me, and could use a bit more tact and a little less forthrightness. But still, to be basically told that somebody hates me, when I thought I was doing okay here for once at not being an idiot, really, really sucks. And now I'm wondering if everyone else hates me and I just didn't notice.

Comments

[ionaonie.livejournal.com]

Hon, I really wouldn't worry to much about it. I have, many times in my life had many people tell me to tone back the sarcasm. I'm not the most patient of people when I get something and others around me don't.

Sounds to me like she's just a little bit too thin skinned. And honestly, if she thought you were being a little bit too sarcastic then she should have said something earlier than she did.

And I doubt that there are that many people around who would spend time with someone they didn't like and would just not say anything about it. You get a few people like that, but, in my experience at uni, if people don't like you, they let you know pretty sharpish.

And it is possible that she was just having a really bad day and you ended up getting the brunt of it. Have a quiet chat with her if it's bothering you. I remember having to explain to a lot of people that 93% of what I said was sarcastic and I was only really being mean if I didn't laugh or grin afterwards.

[tahariel.livejournal.com]

One or two I can think of, amybe, and they weren't necessarily sarcastic. *sigh* And we don't spend time together - we're in the same class and the same Halls, so sometimes we end up at the same place at the same time in a position to talk.

Thanks for the reassurance, though. It means that at least you don't dislike me :) (though I had guessed that)

[pobbit.livejournal.com]

Sometimes you can go a little overboard on the sarcasm, but it is always followed up by body-language of some sort that lets people know you are not really being mean. I only get pissed off if I don't notice that you are joking and that has been rare. However, some people just do not get sarcasm at all and others just don't learn to get it. I don't hate you!